I love Mark Rober. If somehow, you’ve never seen his work, he’s a former engineer turned YouTuber who makes all the engineering toys that we occasionally dream to dream.
Anyway, he has a fantastic TedX talk titled The Super Mario Effect. In it, he details how, if appropriately framed, learning can be fun and engaging. I originally wanted to write this as part of my article on choosing to believe in yourself, but I couldn’t find it! You should check it out below if you haven’t already seen it.
This talk is one of many that remind me that you’re never wasting time. You can take the skills you develop while playing to bigger and better things or simply relax, knowing that you’re learning to learn. Keep choosing to be more than the sum of your parts (and have fun!).
One of the reasons that instant-fun (like instant-noodles but even worse for you) like YouTube or Facebook feeds have so much power over us is that we have trouble deciding on how we want to have fun. It’s one reason why the constant feed is so addicting. Instead of choosing to do something, you scroll through an endless supply of instant-fun until you find something appealing, chortle a bit, then continue the search. It’s a weird phenomenon. It’s also horrifying to reflect on.
Would you rather spend 2 hours playing that video game you’ve always wanted to play or 2 hours browsing YouTube? How about 10 minutes? How much of your life do you want to invest in surfing for the next sensible chuckle? I almost uniformly choose the former and do the latter. Ugh.
There are more than a few ways to get through this (See: Deep Work or Indistractable), but I wanted to highlight a specific technique called Scheduling. Scheduling is simple and self-explanatory – the end. >Σ Jokes aside, Scheduling is precisely what it usually is – choosing to do something at and for a specific time. Scheduling is fantastic because it checks off that critical box of being deliberate.
Being deliberate will help you find something to do because it’ll force you to choose. In one of the least startling turn of events, the act of choosing is spectacularly good at developing decisiveness. Have you ever had the “What’s for dinner?” conversation? It’s infuriating. I’m infuriated just thinking about typing it out.
"What do you want for dinner?" "I don't care." "How about <X>?" "No, Anything but <X>." "<Y>?" "We had <Y> on the same day last year. We can't have <Y>." … <infuriation intensifies>
Does this seem familiar? It should. It’s the same pattern as “I have nothing to play,” except it’s just you talking to yourself. At least, if you’re neurotic like me, you’re talking to yourself. Actually, all of the conversations in this blog are me talking to myself. Hmm.
Anyway, this dialogue occurs when one or more parties is unable to make a choice. There are at least 4 (hundred, million, billion) reasons why this is happening. However, It’s imperative to choose before the opportunity is lost and “I guess we’re eating fast-food again.” Since it’s crucial to practice choosing, what better choice to make than when, and how to have fun? Force yourself to choose, and you’ll discover the fun you always had inside. Plus, you won’t have to deal with this nonsense anymore.
Scheduling has other benefits, as well. For instance, if you schedule time to play a game, you’ll find that you get excited with anticipation. I won’t go over it in detail here, but anticipation is an incredibly powerful tool that can override your wanton desires to procrastinate.
Lastly, a schedule is an opportunity to practice discipline. The distinct start and stop inherent to a schedule are significant events that you choose to adhere to. By sticking to your schedule, you will have been deliberate about your life and worked on the discipline-muscle-of-self-serving-validation-and-happiness.
Choosing to do something is a lot harder than it should be. There are a lot of distractions, and it’s easy to defer the choice by indulging in instant-fun. However, with a little forward-thinking, we can have fun the way we want to and live a better life. Make a schedule today, for tomorrow. Or for the next 30 minutes. Or for Thursday. Whatever. Be the person you want to be by scheduling the future you want. Now, what am I eating for lunch? >Σ
Hey everyone! I wanted to check in to let you know how things are going with my Hindsight Challenge and just blog a little. It helps that I’m counting this blurb toward my goal. Anyway, things are going – not well. I’m just getting into the second week of the challenge, and I’ve written… 2 posts (if I include the original Hindsight Challenge article). That said, this was the expected result, so at least I got that going for me.
So what’s happening? Well, thankfully, I’ve been dutifully planning for this moment and spent some time reflecting on my progress. The number one thing that’s lead to procrastination this week has been:
I’ll do it after <X>
As someone who has read a lot of self-help books, it’s funny to look back and see myself fall into the same traps that I’d immediately recognize for someone else. IDIAX (I’ll do it after <X>, or “I’ve done it again, <expletive>” for short), is probably one of the most common mistakes one will make when attempting to be more disciplined. Here are a few of my incidents of this that I can recall from the last week (yesterday):
I’ll work after my brother finishes his match
I’ll start once Kasumi falls asleep
I’m just going to finish the last 15 minutes of this YouTube video
I’ll start after I eat lunch
I’ll start after I eat dinner
There are two critical mistakes to this thinking. First, nothing has meaningfully changed from the time that I chose to begin procrastinating. It’s vital that I take a step back and reflect on this initial mistake and prevent it from happening again. Secondly, my ‘plan’ doesn’t account for nefarious, attention-grabbing nonsense that follows my start criteria. In the YouTube example, what happens at the end of the video? Advertisements about the next video I should watch appear everywhere, the search for a new video pops up, my friend sends me a message, Kasumi wants to play, the dog is hungry – the world conspires against me! And so the cycle repeats, and here I am.
What can I do?
I can certainly wallow in self-pity. I can also complain. I’ve got a lot of practice in both. That said, here’s how I’m getting through this:
Reflecting on my mistakes.
Do something immediately by blogging about the experience.
Instead of IDIAX, convert my ending criteria to my reward. After I do it <X>. AIDIX.
This whole process has been weirdly self-referential, and there’s more than a few gaps in the timeline, but if you’re reading this, then I’m already done. I also foresee some troubles with this plan, like, what is my reward going to be if I didn’t start procrastinating in the first place? Well, that’s a problem (blog) for future Kip. For now, I’m writing (as I choose to!) and getting through my next posting. Three down, 47 to go. Hey! Things are looking better already! >Σ
If there’s one message that I could give to any gamer it would be: You can learn to do anything. If you choose to excel at something, you can.
Imagine the following scenario: You’re at work, and your boss gives you an opportunity for a new role as a team lead. It’s not something that you’ve ever done before, so you’re nervous about accepting it. Like any normal person, you’re concerned that you won’t be able to do a good job since it’s an entirely new field of work. None of your experience seems relevant.
It’s at this point that I would step in with the advice opening this article:
You can learn to do anything. If you choose to excel at something, you can.
I know this to be true because of the nature of what games are. Consider what a ‘game’ is. Fundamentally, a game is a series of challenges grouped together as a test of your abilities. Challenges that you had no prior knowledge of. Challenges, with rules that (often) have no bearing on reality. It’s because of this that games are such fantastic evidence: You can.
Let’s take a look at one of the most iconic video game levels, Super Mario Bros 1-1. Within the first five seconds, you’re likely to experience the following:
What is this sinister-looking mushroom? Why is it walking? Am I half the size of that mountain?
A great many of us will die and have died to the first goomba (the sinister-mushroom) of Mario Bros. That said, many of us also succeed in overcoming this challenge. For those of us that have been gaming for a while, this may no longer seem like an accomplishment. However, from the perspective of a new player, there’s a lot to learn! How do you move? How do you jump? How do I… wait, I can jump?
As a gamer (new and seasoned), we’re continually experiencing this cycle of learning something completely new and using that to drive our future decision making. Taking this back to our real-life scenario, what is really different? We’re in a foreign environment being asked to overcome a new type of problem. It may seem like a stretch, but you’ve got to believe that you have been in this scenario before, and, just like last time, you’ll come out on top.
So get out there. Try! You have it in you to overcome even the most alien issue. You already have the experience you need to start, and all the practice you need to learn how to win. Nothing is truly impossible for you to accomplish if you choose to do it.
As we approach the year 2020, it’s time for another challenge; this one named after the age-old adage – ‘Hindsight is 20/20’. The saying is often used as a way to encourage us to live in the moment and to prevent excessive rumination. You can’t change the past, and spending too much time reviewing mistakes can be detrimental to success. However, reflection is a core element of any successful venture-to-be. If there’s any venture that we wish to be successful, it’s the challenges we present to ourselves. You know, like New Year’s Resolutions.
New Year’s Resolutions are notorious for their insanely high failure rate. Still, we’re going to try to end up on the winning side of the stats with a quick change to the formula. The Hindsight Challenge adds a pre-resolution attempt. By adding this extra step, we gain an opportunity to fail (or succeed), reflect, and improve. Here’s how to do the Hindsight Challenge:
Challenge yourself to complete a pre-resolution for New Years by finding something that you’d like to change.
Do your best to work at your challenge until the new year.
On New Year’s (or slightly after), reflect on your progress. Why were you successful or unsuccessful? What can you change about your process so that you’re more likely to succeed next time?
Update your challenge/process/plan and try again.
The ideal challenge is something that you’ve either failed to achieve before or something that you consider to be slightly outside of your ability to accomplish. Be wary of selecting a challenge that is gated simply by time, such as losing 100 lbs in a month or being awake for 26 hours a day. Your goal should be achievable. Perhaps try to 100% a game or attempt a particularly difficult Achievement such as a no-hit run of Dead Cells.
Once you’re working on the challenge, consider journaling or marking your progress. The secondary goal of the challenge is to work on the core elements of the decision-making process: reflection and improvement. When we take time to look back at our efforts, it will be much easier to identify helpful adjustments if we have something to measure against.
Finally, don’t hesitate to give this a try in the future as well. We have an extra month of headway for the official challenge, but if your goals call for more time, then give yourself that time.
For this challenge, I’ll be resolving to write and publish 50 articles in a month. This is an extraordinary amount of writing for me. Still, it seems like it should be within the realm of possibility. Historically, I’ve not been able to finish goals like this, but I’ll have an opportunity to fix any problems I run into later. Keep an eye out for an update in the New Year.
Best of luck out there and remember: Keep choosing to be more than the sum of your parts! >Σ